Condensing a lifetime of memories and shared experiences into a brief speech can be a challenging feat.
If you’d like to understand eulogies in further depth and write a speech that does your loved one justice, read on for some useful advice.
What is a eulogy?
Usually delivered at a funeral or memorial service, a eulogy is a remembrance speech that honours your loved one. This tribute is typically read by a family member or close friend with the aim of highlighting the lasting impact the person who has died has left behind on those who knew them. Throughout the speech, you’ll be able to share fond memories and reflect on the individual qualities of the person you lost.
What should I include?
Eulogies are completely unique and there’s no set formula to how they should be written. You should aim to make them as authentic as possible, so it’s important to write them in your own style and tone. Remember that you can share unique memories and details about the person who died, so add a personal touch and speak from the heart – you don’t want your delivery to appear too formulaic.
However, there are certain steps you can follow to ensure your eulogy is more structured and concise:
A brief introduction
A good way to set the tone of a eulogy is by reading a quote, poem or scripture that resonates with the person who died. You should then introduce yourself and briefly outline your relationship with the deceased individual.
The main section
The middle section of the eulogy is a chance to discuss the deceased person’s memorable traits and qualities, as well as sharing happy and humorous memories. This part could be delivered chronologically or thematically.
Here’s some talking points you could include:
- How you felt about the person
- Their childhood memories, school and university experience, career, etc.
- Accomplishments and major life events
- Their hobbies and interests
- A description of the person’s unique qualities
- Humorous stories and fond memories
- Any other thoughts you’d like to share
The end of the eulogy should summarise the deceased person’s life and provide friends and family with a meaningful take away of how they should be remembered. Ending on a poignant quote or song lyric is a good way to finish – and don’t forget to thank everyone for attending.
At T & I Stockman Ltd, we offer a range of funeral arrangements to ensure that you give the send-off that truly honours your loved one. From cremation funerals to green burials, we’ll help you decide on an option that suits your needs. Contact us today to find out more about our funeral planning services.